Absence brings out the true attachment you feel for something. Perceive the world perfect, as your life is.... then remove the person/object/desire from this perfect scenario and see how it makes you feel or helps you grow.
It’s good practice to filter... to pour ‘everythings’ in life through the filter of absence to see what comes out of it and what gets left behind as goo.
It’s good practice to filter... to pour ‘everythings’ in life through the filter of absence to see what comes out of it and what gets left behind as goo.
Absence does not mean that we must let go of the attachment. It can be transformed.
hmm.. well i did not imply that absence of a thing should necessarily lead to detaching oneself from that thing.
Ok clarification..
When you pour 'everythings' in life through the filter of absence,
what gets filtered = things/people whose absence makes you feel you need to attach your life to them.
You value them..
what gets left behind = goo = stuff that doesn't really matter.. things that you really don't miss.. people who don't really add up to much in your life.
Hope this helps.. and hope I didn't misinterpret your comment.
There's the old cliche, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." When a person or thing that was once with us is not longer present, it can leave us with this feeling of absence - that something is missing. That feeling of "missing" can come from many sources. We may not miss just the person him or herself, but also the purpose that the person brought to our lives.
People to whom we are attached serve a purpose for us. They give us a sense of social support, a sense of identity through our relationships with them, etc. They may even come to provide more material or functional support, through provision of money or other resources.
So we can definitely miss the wonderful qualities of a person no longer with us. But there's so much more than can be lost as well!
By the way, thank you for the comment you left on my blog. That was very nice!
Additionally, in regard to your question of where the nice guys are hiding, a friend of mine who is a self-professed Nice Guy has suggested that we search in bookstores and coffeeshops.
You can check him out at http://myspace.com/anthonyoster
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at one point - HCU meant the world to me
now..it does not mean so much!
HCU sans my best friends (and the trees) is really nothing!
CS Lewis writes, “we are all destined for greater things, it just takes a journey to get there.” It’s that journey which sometimes brings us those people who shape our lives and then takes the ones we have learned to love away from us.
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